Kristen Mae

Kristen Mae is the bestselling author of Red Water and Beyond the Break as well as the hugely popular and completely twisted short story Black-Eyed Susie. She is also a social media manager, freelance writer, classical musician, and artist. She lives on the Atlantic coast of Florida with her husband, two children, and a fuzzy, giant-eared little dog named Gizmo. Follow Kristen on FacebookTwitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.

Kristen Mae

So what is “Abandoning Pretense”? 

It started off as a blog, but it’s become much more than that. Abandoning Pretense is a community where women (and a few awesome men who are totally secure in their sexuality) can feel free to be honest about their struggles with marriage, parenthood, and life. It is a place where we can all finally abandon pretense.

Aside from her novels, Kristen writes about parenting, ADHD, women’s issues, and marriage. The goal of Abandoning Pretense is to encourage community members to do away with the mind-numbing–and total bullshit–small-talk, white lies, half-truths, and exaggerations that we’re expected to feed one another every day.

If you would like to contact Kristen, email her at abandoningpretense@gmail.com.

17 Comments

  1. Farrah Jinha Reply

    Hi I stumbled across your blog.. not sure where or how but am glad I did. You are funny lady! I’m a mom of 3 (sometimes) fabulous boys and operate a children’s art studio. Keep writing mama, you are easy to read! Cheers, FJ

  2. Hi, I first saw you on Facebook as I have a page there. I am an aspiring writer/blogger and LOVE your blog. I have 3 kids, 2 of which are still at home and I just became a Nana for the first time a few weeks ago. I don’t feel or act like a Nana I can tell you that. I love the way you write, it is like I am just sitting here talking to you. Keep on doing what you are doing because you rock!!

    • That is such a HUGE compliment, because that is exactly how I try to write – as if I were speaking (well, all the awesome crap I *would* say if I had all the right things to say – in general I am a foot-in-mouth person.) Off to check out your blog now. <3

  3. Hi Kristen. Just read your blog “What you don’t know about my unruly child”. Truly a candid and realistic view of parenting a child diagnosed with ADHD. I am that parent. Many thanks to you.

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  5. Johanna Westerman Reply

    I just have to say, hats off to you for putting into words what I live every day. With fourteen year old triplets and an almost 13 year old, I have lived through a lifetime of grossness. And just when I have had enough, out of the corner of my eye, my possum-like dog scooting herself across the rug leaving a turd streak. Why?
    Thanks for making me laugh with your sick humor only an “in the trenches” mom could have.

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  8. Hi there, I only just read your post on Brock Turner, the rapist. But I had to comment, because I was so confused when I saw your name is Kristen Mae, because that’s my first and middle name, spelled the same way! Okay, that’s where I’ll end my lame/creepy comment. Keep up the good work! KrisMae 🙂

  9. Nice job outing the rapist who got a measly six months. While saying something now is important, in six months or so, saying more will be even more important. This young man needs a reminder when it is time to move on with his life. FWIW, he will have to live with his act(s) for as long as he lives. Every relationship he ever seeks to engender will be affected. Every career he attempts will also be impacted. He will pay in spades. Will that ever equal what he has done to a young woman? I don’t know that side-by-side comparison can be made. What I can say is that chances are excellent that how was raised didn’t teach him to value his mother in a way that translated to every other woman in his life. We are the sum total of how we live. We grow up to be who we were raised to be – with some exceptions, of course, like pathologies that are genetic or physical (brain wiring). Now that the rape has been committed and he has been sentenced both in a court of law and in the court of public opinion, my concern for the long term is what becomes of this young victim who was raped and of this young man who needs to find a way to put his life together in a socially conscious and constructive way. Our secondary feeling of anger needs to be replaced with identification of primary feelings that underlie anger. When we have done the feeling work on ourselves, can we turn to constructively contributing to a world in which such a horrific act becomes less likely, less socially rewarding (if that even was the case) for young men. We need to activate our empathy and get energetically involved in building a better world. That is a gigantic task that we each must break down into whatever we can contribute. My part right now is teaching a class called Emotional Healing that is also a support group. I work with adults who recognize that they are in pain and need a paradigm for processing it. Thank you for your blog and for you many other contributions as a writer toward that better world.

  10. Laura Hodges Reply

    I stumbled across your blog in regards to the Stanford rapist. Bravo! On another note, I read about the 16 gross things men do, and I gotta tell ya, you should probably start looking for a new significant other. My husband (and for that matter, my ex-husband) never did any of the things you described in that article, nor would I ever consider being with someone so disrespectful of me and my feelings. I think with your beauty and wit, you could do better.

  11. I loved your article about your son on focalin! We too are in the we’ve tried everything camp and we are ready to take the plunge with our child. Your words gave me a lot of hope for what could potentially save our child and our relationship with her. Thanks so much! ❤️

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  13. The first time I read one of your guest blogs on ADDitude, I was bewildered, thinking “This is me talking, but I didn’t write this!” I too have a son, Lucas, with ADHD. You brought me to tears, writing things that I have felt, but always thought no one else would understand. Thank you, and keep up the good work.

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